When reflecting on life, we often ask ourselves, “If I knew then what I know now, what would I change?” It’s easier to see what we should have said or done after the fact. Regret is a part of life, but changing our mindset and listening to good advice can put some regrets in the back seat.
- Enjoy the journey.
Life moves fast; events seem to change in an instant. Blink once, and your first child is born; blink twice, and your child is off to college; you may have missed it all because you worked crazy hours. Be present in all your experiences that matter. Random pictures, journal entries, and videos are always the best.
- There is no competition.
Your story is yours to experience. Too often, we compare ourselves to others based on half-truths, especially on social media. Never rush your process based on outside expectations.
- Communicate your feelings.
Like a Yes person, there is also an “It’s Ok” person. There’s nothing wrong with being understanding and compassionate. However, avoid bottling up your emotions. Let people know how you feel in a respectful manner. This way, there is a clear understanding on both sides.
- Let go of the fear of making mistakes.
Mistakes are opportunities to get things done right. The business owner had to make mistakes; the empire is a result of his perseverance.
- Less is more.
Sometimes perfecting a few skills is better than being mediocre at 30 skills. Would you hire a person who hasn’t completed a degree plan or has taken multitudes of different courses with no direction? Finishing the task shows commitment—the best that you can be at what you put your mind to.
- Learn to love change.
My coach always said that most successful people are comfortable with being uncomfortable. Change is inevitable and should be viewed positively, even if temporarily negative. Change will always lead to growth.
- Stop wondering what others may think.
It’s hard for some people to find happiness simply because they’re worried about what others may think. Identify the people whose opinions matter to you, but ultimately make the best decision for yourself.
- Meet as many new people as you can.
Life is a multitude of moments! Live your life to the fullest. Traveling exposes you to new foods, cultures, and people.
- Make the most of what you have.
We can spend all day complaining about what we’re missing, but have you exhausted all the resources available to you? Visually impaired musicians Stevie Wonder and Ray Charles did not dwell on what they lacked, which would have jeopardized their greatness.
- Find something challenging that you love doing.
Challenges are healthy and push our threshold further. The key is finding something you love and wanting to see it until the end; taking on additional responsibilities professionally or getting physically stronger are two ways to push yourself. Growth does not come with comfort.
- Learn to love yourself.
You are sufficient, and we are often our harshest critics. Even if it takes posting motivational quotes all over your house, keep giving yourself positive affirmations. When you look in the mirror, call yourself handsome or beautiful. Other people will only love you more for it.
- Each one instructs the other.
Once you find yourself in a position of success, remember to help others get to where you are. Mentor; give back; contribute.
- Take big risks.
Risk big, win big. My rule is that if fear is holding me back, I must face it and never limit my experience because I fear the unknown. Weigh your options; never be a prisoner of fear.
Work is never finished, and we should always try to do more and share the knowledge gained. Try to listen to those more experienced than you for any wisdom they’re willing to share. Intentionally focusing on this list has enabled me to improve personally and professionally.
Joshua Allmon is a Regional Facilitator for Workforce Solutions in the Houston–Galveston Region. Prior to joining the team, Joshua served as a resource specialist helping customers get back into the workforce by reviewing current labor market information, job-readiness skills, and community resources. Joshua’s continued driving force is to help customers get a job, keep a job, or get a better job by conducting job skills seminars throughout the 13 counties of the Gulf Coast region. He holds a B.A. in Marketing and a Minor Business Management from Grambling State University.